As you steal another Holiday cookie or dish up a second helping of dinner, in the back of your mind you might be thinking, "Ah, this will all change next year. No need to worry, THIS time I am going to loose weight and get fit. 2014 is going to be my year of fitness." It won't be and you won't. Why? Because you don't know how.
Now, I am not talking about eating right and exercising, most of us know how to do that. I am talking about the deeper stuff - how do I CHOOSE to eat right and exercise? Change doesn't happen from the outside in, in happens from the inside out. That is why most people are so ineffective in their weight loss goals, they go gun-ho with the outer stuff, and then bam! It's over and they are back to routine as usual. Now, if the authentic 'seed' of change was planted in their innermost being - you know what would happen? Change would occur almost effortlessly in the outer world/outer body. Results would appear quickly and surprisingly.
So, now you want to goods, right? How do I plant this authentic seed of change and get my fit life effortlessly? Well, each person is unique, just like a combination lock, right 34, left 16, right 20.. So I can't give you your exact combination, but I can give you a few hints to unlocking your own combination. First, I've got to tell you something about these hints: They are not for the faint of heart. You might have a strong reaction to them. Good. Positive or Negative, that means they touched you at a core level.
#0. Ignorance can kill you.
Please note that I am making an assumption about you (yes, you - the reader). That assumption is that you understand the basics of fitness and nutrition. You know that eating fresh veggies and dark leafy greens are good for you, You know that heart health requires you to be active every single day. You understand that sugar can kill you, and that healthy fats are essential. You get that over half the food in the grocery store isn't food, and you are aware that 'fast food' is never helpful to your body. If you don't know the basics, please educate yourself (and then finishing reading this blog). I've provided links in the text to get you started.
Now, for my three hints to get you thinking about your unique combination & innermost authentic seed of change:
#1. Your level of 'fit lifestyle' is a direct reflection of your love of life. point blank.
#2. You level of 'fit lifestyle' is a direct reflection of your love of self. period
#3. Your ideas about 'skinny' and 'healthy' and the 'number on the scale' are choking you. Dump them.
Let me explain.
#1. Your level of 'fit lifestyle' is a direct reflection of your love of life. Guess what? You only get one body for this lifetime. That is right, you can't trade it in or upgrade. Oh, and here is another thing - when your body is done, so are you in life as we know it. Let me ask you this, if I had a pill that you could take that would make you age gracefully and live longer - would you take it? If the answer is no, then you know why you haven't yet chosen a fit lifestyle, and your exploration begins here. If you said yes, then your exploration begins here to explore your unique belief systems are getting in the way of you 'taking the pill'. Because you know what the 'pill' is (eating right and exercising), so what is getting in the way of you doing it? There is not such thing as a tiny act. Every single choice you make is bringing your closer to increased life or closer death.
#2. Your level of 'fit lifestyle' is a direct reflection of your love of self. Would you feed a baby sugar water, soda, cookies? Of course not. Do you let a child sit all day every day on the couch watching TV? No. Why, because you love them. When you cultivate a deep love for yourself, you make healthy choices about your food and how you spend your time. In fact, you can't do anything BUT that. Your love drives you to healthy choices, without any conscious thought from you. There is a nasty perception floating around our culture that sounds something like this: "If I hate myself enough, if I am disgusted with myself enough, I will change." THIS IS A LIE. Don't believe it. It is, in fact, the exact opposite that will create natural change. If you LOVE yourself, then you will change. (Yes, I know it feels counter intuitive, but it's true.)
#3. Your ideas about what it means to be fit are choking you. A fit lifestyle looks different for every single person. A fit body looks different for every single person. I know 'skinny' people who are not fit, and 'chubby' people who are fit. The only way that you will know what your fit lifestyle looks like is to live it - and it might change. So, stop trying to fit into the "right" size, or see the "right" number on the scale - and just love yourself and your life.
Please note: Your definition of love might need to be examined to be successful. For example, love is NOT giving yourself everything you think that you want. That is called 'ego slave'.
How am I going to use these hints to dig deeper inside of myself and invite more of a fit lifestyle into my life?
I am going to examine my belief that spending most of my time working makes me a valuable, successful person because that is what often gets in the way of me spending time exercising. I am going to create a self-love ritual for every morning when I wake up. I am going to toss my scale, and focus on how I can increase my running distance, my rep range and the number on the barbell (instead of the scale).
Cheers to the 2014 that YOU CREATE - whatever that looks like. You are not a victim to life - whatever happens will be a direct result of what you create. So, go get 'em, tiger!
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
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