The approach of Solstice and the turning of seasons always inspires within me a need for space, calm, reflection and hibernation. This, at times, can be challenging, as our American culture says that I 'should' feel overjoyed, excited, and full of 'holiday spirit'. I feel the pressure to be busy, do extra shopping, go to extra holiday events, and, of course, provide the best Holiday experience for my kids and family. As you can see, there is quite a contradiction between my natural rhythms this time of year, and the culture I live in.
This year, I've heard many others report; "I'm just in a funk", "I've lost my patience", "I just can't find my holiday spirit", so I got to thinking (and writing) about the solstice and what it means to me.
As I sit and write this, winter solstice is approaching fast and I have gone into my “cave”. It happens every year and before I understood the energies that surround this time of year, I always felt a mild depression, a sort of melancholy, and a lack of energy to get things done (which of course led to self beat-up about how I “should” be). Now that I understand what’s going on, life is much easier, and the Solstice, and Christmas, is much more enjoyable.
So here it goes: This season is not about 3am shopping, weekends filled with holiday parties, and stress about choosing the perfect gift. In a nutshell, the Winter Solstice is the time to germinate the spiritual, emotional and financial seeds that will grow into your life and be harvested next summer and fall.
Sept 21 marks the end of the harvest and the energetic end of the year. Fall is a lull to reflect on what worked and what didn’t and to decide what you want for next year. Around Halloween, you embrace your own shadow and let go of what died or failed. Yes, you can hide behind a costume and sweeten the bitter pill with candy but you do need to release old stuck stuff, from the deepest levels of your being. In November you set your intention with gratitude for what WILL be as well as what has been and plant the seeds of your future deep deep into your unconscious, before the ground freezes over.
Seeds germinate in the dark when everything looks like it has gone to sleep. It’s the same with us. That’s why the time leading up to the Winter Solstice (Dec 21 in the Northern Hemisphere) is the time to go within, to put our conscious mind to ‘sleep’, i.e. to go into a deep meditation and to communicate with the Universe and its infinite possibilities! It is a time when going into your 'cave' and seeking the silence that induces surrender and heart opening is a good thing.
From a spiritual and manifestation point of view, December is not a good time to get busy and active. It is a time to mellow and sleep, to follow the natural rhythms of life. Here are some ideas that have created a huge shift for me during this time of year, I hope they work for you.
Thanks to Sophie Lhote
Mindy Amita Aisling
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OMA Certified Mediator
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