This last year, for me, has been a year of learning at a much deeper level how to be present with myself and others. I had an awakening this past year as to how I retreat from too much joy, deep love, unpleasant conversations, conflict, discomfort, pain, hope, power, adoration, participation, vulnerability. To be present with what is really happening - inside and outside of myself - is a power so deep I struggle to put it into words. If you would have asked me 5 years ago, I would have said that I already had a pretty good idea about how to be present with myself and others - heck, I taught meditation and led workshops on it, right? Oh, but the learning never stops and personal growth is always unabating. Just as Shrek discovered, it was revealed to me that I have yet another 'layer of my onion', and a deeper eye-opening on this topic.
This last year, I spent a lot of time being uncomfortable, physically, mentally and emotionally - and in that discomfort I discovered a joy and gratitude that shook me to my core. When I became completely present and okay being 'not okay' in the moment, I found that things (ideas, concepts, discomfort) began to transform. I got a deeper view into the truth of the alchemist. If you are searching to find more presence in your life, I humbly suggest a few things that worked for me.
1- Stop distracting yourself. TV, sex, the web, working-out, going to work, being over-involved, ...just about anything can be used as a distraction. Sit in silence. If you don't know how to meditate, don't worry about it. Just sit. If you start to feel uncomfortable, anxious or bored.. perfect.. you are doing it right. Keep sitting.
2- Find a place of inner stillness inside of yourself. You can use touch, sound, vibration or visualization to find this place. Practice being in this place, grow and cultivate it. This is your inner gift to yourself and you can never loose it after you build it.
3- Remember, there is a space - a field- between wrong and right, good and bad, deserving and undeserving, wanted and unwanted, okay and not-okay. Search for this space void of judgment, you'll find your own 'watcher' there, and that place will become your wellspring of peace and joy.
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
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Mindy offers professional, affordable online coaching to clients around the world, and local coaching to clients in Bend, Oregon.
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