Every single person on this planet longs for more self-confidence and self-acceptance. It’s true, even the people who you think have it all together, weather it’s someone you know personally, a guru, or a movie star. Each of us is working to love ourselves in a deeper and deeper way.
Why? Well first of all, it just feels good. Secondly, for practical reasons, it makes life easier and success more assured. Running your life without confidence in yourself is like running your car without oil, it just doesn’t operate that well.
Have you ever heard the saying,: We train others how to treat us? Well, it’s true. There is also another not-so-well-known truth, and it is this: We train ourselves how to treat us. This means that in order to be more self confident, we have to train ourselves to be that way.
Here are four (body – mind – spirit - magic) actions steps you can take to increase your self-confidence:
1. Strike a power pose. You body gives information to your mind, emotions and spirit. Research as proven that by striking a ‘power pose’ you can increase your feelings of self-confidence. To invoke a power pose, sit up or stand with your spine straight, roll your shoulders back, and lift your chin. If your standing, plant your feet firmly into the ground feet shoulder with apart, allow your arms to hang loose with palms open. Try it right now, it will change how you feel.
2. Give yourself a new mantra. It is easy for our brain to get into a rut of thinking one way. In order to get out of that rut, we must dig a new channel. To do this, create a manta that empowers you and tell it to yourself over and over (and yes, over some more) until you are living it. Possible mantras are: My ideas and contributions are valuable. My innate wisdom provides me with all I need to know in any situation. I am filled with love, and nothing (and no one) can stop me from loving in every moment. I am amazing and desire all the things I desire.
3. Meditate. Give your spirit a chance to feel the peace and confidence that comes with just being. Each of us as a natural state of being, and in that natural state (at rest) we know that everything is okay. It’s all good. There is nothing that need worrying about. Commit to meditating just 10min a day and ‘plug in’ to that natural state of peace & confidence.
4. Cast a spell. This might sound silly, but playing with the Universe is a fun way to help manifest the things we desire, and invite more silliness into our lives. If you are open to it, cast this spell: To build confidence today, brew some black tea. As you add honey to it, whisper: “The sweetness of life is mine to savor.” Before drinking, say: “Black tea, evoke confidence within me.” While you drink your confidence tea, visualize yourself confident and self assured in every situation. Imagine the people you many encounter and the places you may go today. See and feel those around you reacting in a positive way to your calm confidence. To add potency to this spell, carry one black tea bag with you all day, then place black tea leave in your pillow or under your matters while you sleep.
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
She has been featured in the New York Times, The Seattle Times, The Bend Bulletin, The Peninsula Daily News, KOMO 4 TV, The Oregonian and many more. You can learn more about Mindy here.
Mindy offers professional, affordable online coaching to clients around the world, and local coaching to clients in Bend, Oregon.
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