The words we use are powerful and they construct the world in which we live. Expansive words can make you feel expansive, and are used to open up possibilities and action. They are also used to create healthy boundaries so that you have the time and energy to focus on your authentic purpose. These words open conversations and allow for greater connection with others.
Contracting words make you feel diminished and shut down. These words create ambiguity, procrastination, separation and judgement. These words fuel arguments, promote misunderstandings and harm relationships.
The words we use have a powerful impact on ourselves, our relationships, and what we create in our lives. Use the list below to help you become aware of what types of words you use.
Another benefit of changing your language is that it is a quick and easy way to do an alignment check. When I say, "I need to go to this networking event" I am not at choice, I am not evaluating my values and time, I am simply being a slave to something that "needs" to be done. When I change the language to, "It's important to me to go to this networking event" instantly I have a reaction in my body. This reaction confirms that it is important to me, or I discover that it actually is not important to me and I then can make a new choice.
The language we use is more than semantics, it is one of the tools we can use to transform our lives.
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
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