Have you learned about the power of just being quiet. In your life for your personal well-being, in your relationships & communication, as part of being a great leader and motivator... more is less. So, just be quiet, already!
When was the last time that you were quiet? I'm not talking about just your own silence.., but when was the last time you allowed your soul to rest in the space of silence? This means no music, no TV, no reading, and yup, you've got to set down your phone. Most of my clients feel incredible uncomfortable when they first sit with silence. Stopping all the input of our crazy world that we are bombarded with daily can feel really new, strange.. and even kinda scary. If you start to spend time in silence, and you want to run away and distract yourself... you are on the right path! lol. Alternatively, when you learn to sit in silence. When you grow your comfort with yourself and with life itself, you will find yourself being able to handle stress and decision-making in your life with greater ease. You will also find your self-confidence increasing. That's right, just be sitting in silence and not distracting yourself, you can increase your self-confidence.
Silence in a conversation can be the most valuable part. Really listening, allowing yourself or the person you are with to have the time to fully think about what they want to say. I am a mom of a teenager, and I have to consciously shut up ALL the time! You don't build relationships by constantly giving advice, showing how smart you are, solving people's problems for them, or giving your story on the subject. You build relationships by listening, by allowing for space. Holding "the space" for another person means to connect with them energetically and allow for whatever they are feeling to be present with you. It's powerful stuff.
Finally, if you want to motivate someone - shut up, already. Don't tell them, show them. What inspires is actions, energy and experiences. If you want to be a great leader, you must model the behavior and feelings that you want to inspire in others. Of course, sometimes words are important, but we over-use them and often our actions and feelings are not in alignment with our words, which can do the opposite of inspire others. First, find the quiet space inside of yourself. Then, lead from that place.
Silence is where the power is.
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
Mindy has been featured in the New York Times, The Seattle Times, The Bend Bulletin, The Peninsula Daily News, KOMO 4 TV, The Oregonian and many more. You can learn more about Mindy here.
Mindy offers professional, affordable online coaching to clients around the world, and local coaching to clients in Bend, Oregon.
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