Yesterday I realized that I wanted someone to give me permission to be lazy. I would have been ecstatic if my husband had come up to me and said,
"Hey Love, why don't you sit around the house today, stay in your pj's until noon, and then have a beer with lunch, and take a nap outside in the sun."
Ah, pheww.... now I can go about my life the way I want to without feeling guilty.
Hahaha... as if I was not the master of my own life. As if another person could decide better for me what I wanted, and what my body, soul and mind needed at that exact moment.
In the same way, I waited until I was 30 before I realized that no one was going to come out and give me permission to be bright and shiny - big, famous and in the spotlight. In fact, they might even put a negative label on me, like "show-off" or "conceded". But wait - whose life is this anyway?
It's so strange, I see it all the time (in myself and others)... this waiting for permission. As if we are sitting in the waiting room (some uneventful purgatory) waiting for permission to live our lives. To make the choices we want. To be happy. To relax, to feel good, to move on, to say no, to leave, to stay, to say yes, to have the career we want, marry who we want, to spend our time as we choose.
It's like a plague, I see it infecting my clients, my friends, to co-workers. People are waiting for permission from their parents(even when they are in their 60's), their husbands, their wives, the boss, the government, society, God, their kids, the news, and the ever ambiguous "they".
Did you know that this waiting is seriously effecting our world and our planet? The fact is that we need more people living their dream, doing what they want, loving who they choose, listening to their intuition & allowing it to guide their actions, taking the time to rest and be, we need people to become the masters of their own lives.
So, I challenge you: Do what you want, when you want, and feel good about it. - You have my permission.
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
Mindy has been featured in the New York Times, The Seattle Times, The Bend Bulletin, The Peninsula Daily News, KOMO 4 TV, The Oregonian and many more. You can learn more about Mindy here.
Mindy offers professional, affordable online coaching to clients around the world, and local coaching to clients in Bend, Oregon.
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