Have you ever felt like something is missing? I know I have. My thoughts have often complained; "I wish this was more fun, I wish these people were more accepting, I wish I had more love, friendship or romance." Sound familiar? Have you had these thoughts too?
Then one day I heard something, and it stopped me in my tracks:
"The only thing missing from any given situation
I let this thought roll around in my mind over and over contemplating it. If this quote was indeed true, I could have what I wanted anytime. But was it possible? I decided to do an experiment (which I do often in my life and find is the best way to grow). I would notice whenever I wished for something different, document it, try to bring what I wanted to the situation, and then document the results.
For example, when I was in a group of colleges and felt like I wasn't liked or accepted, I paused, noted my feeling and then came back to the situation and focused intentionally on accepting each person for who they were and appreciating their uniqueness. I wanted acceptance and so I brought acceptance to the table. Guess what? I felt more acceptance. Later that week I felt distant from my husband and afraid that I didn't 'light his fire' as much as I once did. So, I paused, noted my feeling, and then became present to the situation again and with intention, opened my heart to all the passion and love I had for my husband. Guess what? It only took just a few moments, and I felt the connection that I desired. Hmmm. Interesting.
It was appearing to be true. What was curious about it, was that I had to overcome huge resistance to allow myself to bring what I wanted to the table. It was like there was this inner 2-year-old in me wanting someone else to do it for me. Yet, when I overcame this resistance - I got more of what I wanted.
Have you tried this experiment? What were your results?
The more and more I use this tool, the more powerful and accurate it's use becomes for me. It also has the side benefit of revealing more and more to me what I truly desire. I have found that I have the key to open up my life in ways I never imagined and yet, the courage it takes to use this key is bigger then I ever thought. Are you willing to go out into your life today with courage, and bring what it is you desire most to the situation that is the most lacking in your life?
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
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