This weekend I re-learned a great lesson. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
My belief system is that perfection is happening at any given moment. Nothing should be different. No one should be different. Everything is exactly as it should be, and life's events are unfolding perfectly and in my best interest.
This weekend, I was asked to believe that someone I knew should be different they they are. This thought felt so icky and uncomfortable inside my body. It possessed my thought, and made my mind run around like a monkey.
Then, thank god! I had a great memory! When I first moved to the Peninsula, I believed that perfection was happening at any given moment in concept only. So, low and behold, I created a perfect test, a perfect lesson for myself! I worked with a man who was aggressive, angry, condescending, manipulative, mean, and seemingly caused many people harm and left a path of destruction in his wake. I knew deep down in my knower that he had to be perfect, whole and complete just the way he was... and that he didn't need to be different in any way. I had to look, and look, and look deeper to see and experience his perfection. It took about 6 months - but then I got it! I saw how amazing he was, I fell in love with him, and at the same time I created boundaries and made choices to keep myself and my life in alignment with what I wanted, how I wanted to be treated, and what I wanted to create. Imagine my surprise when I realized that it really WAS true, I could be happy, be treated how I wanted to be, live within my values, see him 5 days a week - and he didn't need to be different in any way. It was one of the greatest lessons of my life.
This weekend it took me about 24 hours to remember this. I don't need to, or want to, believe that any person should be different then they are. Everyone really is perfect, whole and complete just the way they are. Remembering this was a huge relief!
It was a real gift because it reminded me in a much deeper way, that I am you and you are me. We are both the same divine energy expressing itself differently.
My job is to reflect back to you your divinity, and to learn from you my own divinity.
I am grateful
I just recently experienced this. I've dreamed of creating a partnership with other women and other professionals whom I admire and whom share a similar belief system. When I manifested this into a reality, the first thing I felt was resistance, fear, and my mind went crazy with made-up stories, fears from my past, and imagined future "problems". I know that I am not my thoughts, and that some thought are true on others are not true....but how do you tell the difference?
Resistance had such a distinct feeling inside of the body. Can you recognize it? Do you know how to tell the difference between fear and intuition? When do you trust your feelings and when to you kick 'em to the curb and blaze the path to your dreams? Well, I'll give you a few hints. Think about the thing that you want to do. Now, feel how that thought effects your body. Fear and resistance feels contracted. It feels like a tightening within your chest. You shoulders usually cave forward and your chin drops down. Your body might get cold, you might cross your arms. Intuition feels expansive. Your shoulders move back, your spine straightens. Your body might feel warm or excited.
If you keep the thought of what you want to do in your mind as you sit in meditation, you can get an even deeper sense of how that thought feels. Intuition will feel light and tingly at the top of your head. Fear will create a monkey mind of thought.
Your body is a great alley in helping you decide what steps to take! Don't let your fears stop you from creating the life of your dreams! If you want to learn more, contact me.
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
Mindy has been featured in the New York Times, The Seattle Times, The Bend Bulletin, The Peninsula Daily News, KOMO 4 TV, The Oregonian and many more. You can learn more about Mindy here.
Mindy offers professional, affordable online coaching to clients around the world, and local coaching to clients in Bend, Oregon.
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