Yesterday, on February 14th, 2013 I joined a billion women in over 200 countries to RISE and stand to eradicate violence against women in our world. As I listened to the stories of the women of my community, women who I know and love.. I was deeply moved to hear how many of them suffered in their own lives.... and how incredibly resilient
and strong the were to say no, to make hard choice, and (in some cases) to stand up for their children and future children. It really touched me in a place that I thought was completely healed.. but again felt the rawness. The fact is that I had a child with an abuser, and even though I left, my child still feels the effects of that person. I want to let anyone who is going through that pain - that I know what it's like..., and you're okay. It's all okay. I feel it too, and I know how hard it is to understand and see the perfection and the beauty in it. I want to let my son know that I'm "in his corner", and doing everything in my power to change the world and how it operates. I want to offer any woman who is being abused, controlled or manipulated - Call me. I know where you are at, and I will listen, I will talk with you, and offer direction and assistance - completely free of charge -- to take your next steps. Heck, I will just sit with you in silence, because I know how hard it is to talk about it - and I know that it feels good to just sit with someone and not be alone.
Today can be the BEST Valentines of your life if you choose to make today the day you draw a line in the sand, get off the fence, start a new chapter, turn over a new leaf & take a stand... Are you ready?
If you answered YES - then here is what you can do to make this the best Valentines EVER:
1. Let go of the past. Take a moment to write down everything that you are currently beating yourself up for, regretting, or wishing was different. Take this paper and throw it out into the ocean, the lake, or tie it to a rock and toss it in the river. Stuff it in a balloon and let if fly away. Burn it and blow the ashes to the wind. Phew.. your done. It's forever gone now.
2. Accept yourself for who you are right now. That's right, forget all this waiting, all this hoping and all this wishing that you were somehow different. Toss away all this effort to be a "better person" or fit into the way someone else wants you to be. *uck it. You are perfect just the way you are. Your faults, your shortcomings, your fears... - yup, they are perfect too. Deeeeeep breath... and them Mmmm Mmmmmm - can you feel it? That acceptance sure does feel YUMMY!
3. Fall in Love. With you. Yes, that is right. Fall in love with yourself. It is the one relationship that you are guaranteed will last forever, so make it the relationship of your dreams. Everything that you've been wanting from another - from a partner - Give it to yourself. Give yourself the love, the acceptance, the time, the energy, the adoration, the respect, the commitment that you want. It's about time.
Happy Valentines Day!
When my son was just a year old I found a book called I believe in me. It is an amazing book filled with affirmations. One of the ones that really felt like a stretch to me is "I share my love and watch it grow." I decided to say it everyday, and really make a stretch to step into it. My life became focused on how I could share my love... all of this great, powerful love that I had inside of me.
This manifested in my family life, my self care, my work life.... all aspects of of me. As I shared my love for the pure joy of sharing I watched my love begin to grow and create a world around me which was filled with beauty and divinity. What a gift! Recently, this manifested even larger in my life as I shared my love with my 2 friends and co-collaborators Kristin and Marie. Our love grew, and we decided to grow it even more by involving our community and strangers that we had never met. That love grew, and grew and grew... It resulted in the news,not reporting fear and negative events,but reporting on LOVE - our love - my love... Yup, that love that started with a little seed inside of me. Try it, try it, you will see! Start with that little seed of love inside of you!
Here is how my love grew!
KOMO 5 News
KING 5 News
Let someone "surf " your couch
Join Couchsurfing (https://www.couchsurfing.org/) and offer your couch, floor and yard space to a complete stranger. Not only are you helping make someone's travel dreams come true, while they are with you, you can shower the with love, gratitude and attention! Plus, you get the benefit of making friends all over the world!
Random gift (just open the phone book!)
This one is easy! Open the phone book, and pick a name. Send that person a anonymous random gift!
Join Pen Pals or Post Crossing
Do you love writing? Do you have love, kindness, inspiration and gratitude to pass around? Great! Send a letter or postcard full of kind words to another human on this planet! Visit http://www.postcrossing.com/ or
http://penpals.livejournal.com/ for more information
Pay for the person behind you
It doesn't matter if it is the person behind you at the toll booth, the movies, the drive-through or the grocery store - tell the clerk you'd like to put $5,$10,$20,$50 dollars towards the people who come after you. This one is SO much fun!
Drop a Love Bomb
Join Nate and the peeps over at Love Bomb (http://dropalovebomb.com/) to shower someone with love and positivity! Every week Love Bomb picks someone in need of a little extra love, light and support. That person is then showered in love in the form of comments on their blog.
Visit someone who doesn't have visitors
Bring flowers, cards, gifts (and yourself, if it's allowed) to a local hospital or nursing home. Ask the staff to give them to someone who doesn't have any visitors.
Quarters are powerful!
Put Quarters in one or all of the machines at the laundry mat, slip quarters into the parking meters, hide quarters under cans in the grocery store. It's a small amount that can increase the joy of the stranger who finds it exponentially!
Buy a gas card (or several) and put them under unsuspecting windshield wipers on random cars in the parking lot. Leave a nice little note that says, "Enjoy this $5 of gas - Have a wonderful day!"
Pay someone's electric bill
This is a great way to give (I love to do this in Winter, especially around Christmas time). Go to your local utilities center, and ask them to apply $10-$100 to someone's bill who is behind or about to get the electricity shut off.
Write a love letter
Join Hannah (and hundreds of others) by writing love letters to perfect strangers. You can create you own movement privately or within your community - or you can send your letters to Hannah to distribute to those in need. Perhaps you or someone you know needs a bundle of love letters? You can also sign up to receive some love! For more details, visit www.moreloveletters.com.
Buy tires for someones car
Follow this Good Samaritan, and when you see a car with bald tires (maybe someone who lives in your neighborhood or parks by your office), go pay for them to have tires put on their car. Just leave the receipt under their wiper. This good deed not only promotes kindness - it also promotes safety!
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
Mindy has been featured in the New York Times, The Seattle Times, The Bend Bulletin, The Peninsula Daily News, KOMO 4 TV, The Oregonian and many more. You can learn more about Mindy here.
Mindy offers professional, affordable online coaching to clients around the world, and local coaching to clients in Bend, Oregon.
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