It is my choice to be happy. Furthermore, I have ‘permission’ to be happy even if I am not working, not contributing, not doing tasks, not being there for other people, not strong, not pretty, or not healthy. My happiness is not a reward for my behavior, it is a birthright and I can choose it for myself anytime I want to.
Right now you might be experiencing cynicism. I am. Your cynic is the brilliant guardian you have that keeps you from being sold another bill of goods – from being duped in your life. I struggle all the time, and when my cynic comes up and yells at me, "You are not good enough to feel happy! You must do better, be more, go faster - then, and only then can you allow yourself to feel joy!" I bow down to my cynic, and say, "Thank you, thank you, thank you. Thank you for protecting me." Then I take control, because my cynic is just one attribute given to me to serve me in the journey of my life. I have the final say in how I act and what I believe. So, I reach into the love I have and expand it, and like a mother I say, "Shhhshhhshhh" to my cynic. Then, I choose to move forward into a place where I deserve to be happy simply because I am alive. This is a big "T" truth, and my soul resonates with it.
Living from a truth I don't yet feel is a practice I know well. Today, I don't feel like I deserve joy, but I allow for it anyways. I call this practice 'grace', and the more I use it the better results I get in my life.
Mindy Amita Aisling
ICF Life Coach,
NFPT Fitness Trainer,
OMA Certified Mediator
Mindy Aisling is a certified life and business coach in Bend, OR, exceeding all of the educational requirements & training set forth by the ICF.
She has worked with such organizations as St. Charles Hospital, Soroptimists, The Dispute Resolution Center, Olympic Medical Center, Americorps, and Juvenile and Family Services.
Mindy has been featured in the New York Times, The Seattle Times, The Bend Bulletin, The Peninsula Daily News, KOMO 4 TV, The Oregonian and many more. You can learn more about Mindy here.
Mindy offers professional, affordable online coaching to clients around the world, and local coaching to clients in Bend, Oregon.
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