My Story by Mindy Amita Aisling, CPC

Amita Coaching & Training

Coaching, Mediation and Trainings offered world-wide (online) and in-person locally in Bend,OR
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My Story

I have always identified with being a strong powerful woman. That being said, I have lost my way, gone through hell, found myself, searched deeper, given too much, learned a whole bunch, broken down, ran in fear, lived behind my assumptions, jumped over impossible obstacles, and climbed up mountains.

I was abandoned as a child, passed around to relatives, lost my friends and community. At 15, I felt like I was on the edge of my sanity, and wondered if I'd survive. As many of us have found in our lives, there was more inside of me then I thought there was, and I pulled from a deep reservoir, that I never knew existed, to step into my resiliency.

I graduated high school at started college at 16. There I cultured a deep love for learning and education. I began to explore the world and the concepts that it was made of. It wasn't until years later that I began the exploring into the concepts that I was made of.

By 17 I was on my own, working full-time, in college part time, and paying my own bills. I met a man who was 26 and fell into habit with him. My habit, my greatest role ever played: being the victim. I had felt so abandoned in my childhood that having a controlling, obsessive partner felt really good. It felt like love. I married him, bought a home, started a business, and had a child. On the outside, my life looked like a picture of success. I was 24 and I had the "white picket fence" dream. What most people didn't know is that it was only a shell of a life. It was an image. And then one day, a week before Thanksgiving, as I put my infant son to bed, he came into the nursery in a rage, calling me names, throwing things, and creating holes in the walls with his fists. I was consumed by fear, but again, I reached into the deeper reserve of strength and resiliency, and the next morning I quietly packed and left with my son. I never set foot in that house again.

Here is where I began to explore the question, "What is it about me that is creating my life?" I remember sitting in the basement of the domestic violence center, drinking bad coffee, and thinking, "How is it possible that I got here? I am pretty, intelligent, and kind.... what happened?"

Since that time I have never let go of that exploration... who am I, and how is that creating the world as I see it, my relationships, my money, my success, my joy, my failure?.. This exploration as let me through spiritual training's, academic education, travel, a deep study of religion and philosophy, a trip to India to live in an Ashram, several certifications in a variety of health and wellness practices, soul healing, meditation, and finally my life's purpose: becoming a coach, and assisting others to thrive. I was able to attend one of the best coaching schools in the world, graduating with educational credits and client hours that far exceeded the requirements set forth by the International Coaching Federation.

While I was busy exploring myself and the spiritual world, I was also exploring my intelligence, logic and natural skills as a leader & entrepreneur. This lead me to successfully run 3 small businesses in different fields. One of those business I took (with my 2 partners) from an at-home(garage) business to a million dollar a year manufacturer in just over one year. I found that I have a natural brilliance for ideas and creating things in the physical reality and business world. I am a third generation entrepreneur, and I have repeatably drawn on the practical wisdom that has been passed down to me. Combining this wisdom with further business education has made me extremely effective as a manager and business owner. Now, I get to pass that experience on by coaching other business leaders and new entrepreneurs.

As a mother, I have navigated the road of divorce, being a single parent, and raising a kid with SPD into a high-functioning young man. I have learned (and I'm still learning) how to tread the path of having a child with a father in and out of prison and addicted to drugs. I have learned how to have a positive interdependent marriage with a man I love, and I am mastering daily how to make a successful blended family and step-parent relationship.

As a wife, I have discovered that a marriage doesn't have to have ups and downs. Times of strive and struggle between partners doesn't have to exist. The power struggles in my first marriage and previous long term relationships originally had me thinking that balancing my needs, my individuality and my commitments as a wife and a mother would be a struggle. Imagine my delight to discover that two people can come together and work and play day-in-and-day-out in a delightful, fun way (Yes, every single day!). After six years being blissfully married, I've narrowed down exactly what has made this relationship so successful - and I'm excited to share that information with other wives.

When I was 35, I was in a head on car collision where an intoxicated driver crossed the center divide and hit me and my family head-on, both cars going 55mph. My son and I were airlifted to a trauma center, and my husband treated at the local hospital. I lost over 2 liters of blood and barely made it to the hospital in time for them to save my life. Coming close to death gives you a strange sense of clarity. I spent months recovering physically, and even longer recovering from PTSD. This changed forever who I was and how I saw the world.

I have been through many different trauma's and I have overcome each one. I've learned how to be comfortable being uncomfortable, and how to find and create joy in the strangest of places.

Life is my gift. My own personal, wonderful gift! I am thankful for every tiny piece of it, the good and the bad. I relish in the delight of living. In the joy of learning, being, thinking, and feeling.

I am a success. I am a failure. I am a bad-ass. I am a tiny frightened child. I am a wise sage. I am fearless. I need. I want. I have. I give. I am a woman. I am a life coach. I am you. I am me.

I am Mindy Amita Aisling.

Live your most authentic life, and nothing less.

I love hiking,
mountaineering, bike riding, rock climbing, costumes, dancing, laughing, working out, being silly, live music, trivia, theater, learning, teaching, kids, friends and family.

My favorite quote (by Osho) and the guide I use to live every.single.day:

"Love deeply. It is not a question of relationship. Love is a way of life. Be loving - to the trees, to the animals, to the birds, to the rocks, to the pebble. It is not a question of to whom, it is a question of your heart throbbing with love. It has nothing to do with the object of love but with the subjectivity of love. Then suddenly you have the Midas touch; whatsoever you touch becomes golden. Small things in your hands become extraordinarily beautiful. Your actions, ordinary actions, start having the quality of the extraordinary. Then whatsoever you say is poetry and whatsoever you live is music. Even while you are asleep your energy is in celebration."

This means that loving is about me. It is never about the other person (or whether they deserve it). It doesn't matter who they are... it matters who I AM. I can choose to be loving, and that is something that can never be taking away from me... and it grows my life strong and beautiful. <3 When I am loving, I AM the one that gets to experience the love. Pretty neat.